One of my dearest friends said to me today “I want to lose weight, I know I need to, so I am going to try and eat well for this school term. The problem is I don’t have the drive.”
I said I understood. “Your husband loves you for you, and weight is not an issue for him.”
So, it made me think, what drives us and how can we become more driven when we know we COULD or SHOULD. I thought I would go back to my friend with the following tips and tricks and see if this can help put her on the right track.
Your kids – lead by example:
Whether we like it or not, we are role models for our children. I have vivid memories of my mother growing up always in work attire, dressed to the nines, wearing stilettos and a full face of make-up. She represented elegance and style – and therefore imprinted that mothers are beautiful and ethereal. She never dressed down (unless whilst cleaning her house) and whenever she left the home, even if only to go to the shops – she would wear her favourite red lipstick. She took care of herself and therefore imprinted on my young self and the rest of her children I am sure, the importance of valuing ourselves.
I remember on a few occasions when I was looked at sternly and she
would say “you’re not going out like that are you?” Looking back, I have to laugh – I was a terrible dag, and if it wasn’t for her and my beloved sister, I probably would not have learnt to apply makeup till this day.
On another note, if we don’t value ourselves or our appearance, we cannot expect others to – and therefore to lead by example we have an obligation to our children to show them the way.
And by doing this we teach them habits, which brings me onto another topic.
Good and Poor food choices:
We all know that saying, “you are what you eat” – as much as we hate to hear it, it holds a lot of value unless you are one of the unlucky few with medical conditions that mean your body doesn’t metabolise properly.
What also irks me the most is when I visit restaurants and the kid’s menu consists of pizza, pasta, nuggets, deep fried fish and chips. I would not eat these foods myself, so why should I give them to my kids. Our job is to help them grow into wonderful, intelligent strong and sensible beings and a healthy and balanced diet is definitely going to help them on the right track.
So, what I do is now order myself a healthy main, which always consists of fish/meat/chicken and three veg and then cut off a proportionate size for my little one. Hopefully this embeds in her little mind, that protein and vegies is just part of their staple diet. That’s not to say I don’t treat them to “The Big M” sometimes, but for me it’s about them understanding the difference between ‘sometimes food’ and ‘always food’. Then you know you’re on the right track when your little boy says “mummy, I only want one donut, it’s too much sometimes food for me.”
Blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, and the list goes on. Unfortunately, I find that it’s only until someone visits the doctors and is told it’s “do or die” that they finally take the plunge. Does it really have to be this late, can’t we try and keep our health in check prior to doing a massive overhaul.
When you look better, you feel better, you are more confident, it changes your life in more ways than one.
I find that ultimately it still comes down to you, what makes you feel good about yourself, what makes you stop and admire yourself in a mirror or avoid it at all costs.
Whatever body shape, form, type you are – just be the best you can be, the healthiest you can and the happiest you can. Eat right and eat well, the rest will fall into place. Remember they say it takes 21 days to form a new habit, so don’t be hard on yourself, but get yourself on track.
We only have one shot at this life, so don’t waste yours wishing and hoping. Find your balance and dig deep to hold on to a good reason that will keep you fired up to achieve it