You’ve tried time and time again to achieve that goal, and yet you still seem to fail. Why: the question etched into your mind. Why is it that every time you set yourself a goal you can’t achieve it? You can easily jump to blaming certain life circumstances, which have made it somewhat difficult and potentially never set a goal again. Or you can vow to understand the science behind making goals and learn the right way to set goals that are achievable. There is nothing wrong with ambition or challenging yourself. However, think SMART when it comes to setting goals. Lyfestyled is here to show you how to make goals in the most logical way.
Choose a meaningful goal
Don’t just choose a goal because you overheard a friend telling another friend of their life goal and maybe you liked it. If you can’t find one that is specifically meaningful to your own life, then chances are you’re more than likely to fail. The real way to achieve a goal is to pick one that truly inspires you to change.
Think hard about this goal. Its important to fully understand the reasons why this is important to you and how it is going to help you achieve what you want out of life. We suggest the 3x method to understand the value of your goal. Think about what you want in the coming year or five years, then ask yourself why you want that — three times in a row. For example, if you want to lose weight, ask why you want to lose weight? Then, if you want to lose weight for your health, ask why you want good health? Then if your answer is to lose enough weight to have children, ask why you want to have children? By digging deep into the reasons for your goal you will get to something so obviously important in your life. Using the 3x method you can gain immense motivation as it becomes clear why the goal matters in your life.
Take Baby Steps
Don’t fixate on that magical ending when you’ve reached your goal and your life is suddenly so much better than it was before. Focus on each day at a time and take baby steps to get there. People often get lost believing that everything has to happen at once. But small changes overtime are more likely to become embedded in our actions leaving us more likely to succeed over a long period of time. Every day ask yourself ‘what is the smallest thing I can do today that will help me reach my goal?’ If you make daily choices that are consistent with your goal over and over again, you’ll eventually reach it.
Be the Optimist
Positivity has more of an effect than you think. In every aspect of your life, positive thinking and positive energy can irrevocably impact you for the better. This is the same when focusing on a goal. How you describe your goal makes a big difference. Focusing on what you want to bring into your life, not what you want to avoid, will make you more likely to actually pursue it. It is basically just brain chemistry. Studies run by a psychologist at Stanford University suggest, “Any sort of negative avoidance is going to trigger inhibition systems, whereas positive goals are going to trigger approach and reward motivation.”
Have a Contingency Plan
Prepare for failure. We don’t necessarily mean prepare for failure in the sense that YOU WILL FAIL. We mean prepare for the worst so if the worst happens you have a back up plan. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, your contingency plan should be organizing healthy food options in case certain plans fall through. For example, if your dietician has recommend you eat 5 healthy meals a day, what are you going to do if you have a deadline to meet and cannot leave the office for lunch? Always carry with you a healthy snack option in case your lunch or dinner plans gets put off. The key to success is to always have a contingency plan. Not only will a back up plan help keep you positively focused, it will prevent you from having thoughts of doubt leaving you likely to give up.
We’re not talking about some voodoo ceremony. However, we are encouraging you to try and unconsciously manipulate your mind. Studies have shown that changing your passwords to words or phrases related to your goal allow the mind to unconsciously focus on achieving it. For example, if your goal is to get your pre-baby body back, then try changing your passwords to PREBABYBODY. Every time you sign into your accounts, you will be reminded of the thing you want the most. You’ll become more focused and driven to achieve the goal, as it will be embedded in your mind.